Turning 40

By Mike O’Quin (on his 40th Birthday)

 

When I was in my pre-teens, the pop group Air Supply was burning up the American charts with their string of love ballads.  I remember listening to their albums (the black vinyl kind, before CD’s) in my big sister’s room and I thought she was so lucky to get to go to their concert when they came to town.  She went with her boyfriend and they probably waved a lighter in the air along with thousands of fans while the Australian duo sang “All Out of Love” and “Here I Am (just when I thought I was over you).”  I didn’t get to go.  I was too young.

 

I’m not too young now.  I turn 40 today.  And on this monumental day I’m thinking about Air Supply again.  A few years back they came to town for another concert, but this time it was in Surabaya, Indonesia.  I was living there at the time, and as I saw the promotional billboards around the congested metropolis, I thought to myself, “Ah, man, I gotta see Air Supply!  How old are those dudes now?”

 

I pitched the idea to my wife and some friends and they agreed. “Ah, man, we gotta see Air Supply!”  And then they added, “How old are those dudes now?”

 

So we purchased our tickets and arrived at the Shangri-la Hotel ballroom with the expectation of a night of magical nostalgia.  Graham Russell and Russell Hitchcock delivered.  Though definitely older, they still belted out their ballads with syrupy gusto.  Sometimes they couldn’t quite hit the very high notes at the end, and the younger base player had to step in and finish out their songs, but overall they still had it.  As far as I could tell they didn’t need oxygen tanks for their own air supply.

 

As I sat there in the grinning and slightly swaying audience, along with my wife, our newborn son and our friends, I kept thinking to myself, don’t these guys get sick of these songs?  I mean, how many times can someone sing “Two Less Lonely People in the World” without throwing up?   Night after night, in thousands of venues around the globe, they gather the 80’s faithful and stir up those old memories from the skating rink glory days.  Same twelve songs every single night for decades.

 

Apparently they are very bored of those same old songs.  As the lead singer crooned his way down the aisle that night, looking over the crowd of Asian faces, he noticed a clump of white faces and our cute little baby.  He was in the middle of singing, “All Out of Love,” and stopped right in the middle of his lyrics to chat with us (I’m not making this up):

 

Russell Hitchcock (singing): “I wish I could carry your smile in my heart/For times when my heart feel so low… (then suddenly talking)…Hi there, what a cute baby.  Where are you guys from?”

 

Me (stunned): “Oh, uh, hi.  Nice to meet you.  This is Jordan.  And we’re, uh, from Texas.”

 

Russell (while his partner picked up the rest of the tune):  “Oh really?  I love the states!  I have a house in Los Angeles.”

 

Me: “Oh great.  We’re enjoying the show.”

 

Russell: “Thanks.  Nice to meet you.”

 

Me: “Nice to meet you, too.”

 

Russell (singing again): “I ‘m all out of love, what am I without you /I can’t be too late to say that I was so wrong…”

 

So, yes, they are definitely, positively bored of their songs.  Willing to chat with just about anybody to get out of singing them.  But they have to keep singing them, because the paying fans demand them.  They tried to play some of their new stuff but nobody cared.  Everyone wanted to hear the oldies.  Everyone wanted to go back into those old memories and couple skate again.  Now I’m not really sure if those hundreds of Indonesians in attendance that evening ever couple skated but they sure had all of those songs memorized.

 

The great thing about walking with Jesus is that He makes all things new.[i]   He is looking toward the future with faith.  With Him you get hope, which I’ve heard defined as “the joyful expectation of the good.”[ii]  Good things are in store for you.  New things.  You don’t have to look to the past and keep trudging up the same tired songs.  He puts a new song in your mouth.[iii]

 

So I’m not depressed on my 40th birthday.  Why?  Because I’m not all out of love.  I’ve got the blessings of Jesus overflowing in my life and His song in my heart.  Future’s so bright, I gotta wear shades, to quote another 80’s band.[iv]

 

So my question to you is, are you feeling it too?  Does the feeling seem oh so right?  Oh, what are thinking of?  What are you thinking of? (forgive my corny lyrical ending and post your thoughts below).  

 

— Mike O’Quin, author of Java Wake and Growing Desperate


[i] Revelation 21:5

[ii] Sermon by Bill Johnson, I forget the title, sorry

[iii] Psalm 40:3

[iv] Timbuk3

 It was the last show of the day, and it finished right at park closing time.  My young family along with my in-laws had just enjoyed a theatrical production of The Lion King at Disney World’s newly opened park, Animal Kingdom.  We strapped our baby girl in her stroller, gathered up all our bags and trinkets and geared up for the exiting process.

As we made our way toward the exits, a concession worker from a corn dog stand came out and offered the passer-by’s free corn dogs.  I love corn dogs!  My father-in-law and I scooped up as many as we could for a convenient dinner as throngs of people streamed past us toward the exits.

 

One for you.  Here you go.  One for you.  One for you.  Hey, where’s Caleb?  Caleb?  Caleb?  Has anyone seen Caleb?

 

Nana looked up one street, Pop looked down the other, mom checked the immediate area as I dashed back into the theater, thinking maybe our four-year-old little adventurer wandered back in.  No Caleb.

 

We gathered back together to make a search plan, pushing the worst fears out of our minds.  All of us split up in different directions and starting calling out his name in earnest.  Caleb!

 

I quickly threaded my way through the dense crowd, still on its way in mass toward the exits, imagining my little boy crying and lost somewhere in that sea of pedestrians.   As the seconds dragged on to minutes, I tried to push out of my mind horrible words like kidnapped or predator and kept on searching.  Caleb! 

 

I began screaming out his name and jumping up on park benches to better scan the crowd.  At no point did I consider my reputation or what these hundreds of people might be thinking of a frantic, shouting man.  I looked liked like a fool but didn’t care.  I was desperate.

 

After a few more dreadful minutes of searching, suddenly his familiar, cute little blonde head poked out from behind a kiosk of souvenirs. A worker was holding Caleb’s hand, searching the crowd for this lost little boy’s parents.  I heartily thanked the man and lifted up Caleb into an explosion of a bear hug, kissing his cheeks while choking back my own tears.

 

I was so relieved to see my little buddy again I didn’t even think of scolding him, like Caleb, don’t ever leave us like that.  Always hold mommy’s hand and make sure you are always with us.  Nothing like that.  I just held him tightly and quickly carried him back to our anxious family.  The only thing that mattered was having my precious son in my arms again.  Relief and celebration welcomed us at the reunion.  

There was another father once, a much more desperate one, who also looked like a fool but didn’t care.  In his culture fathers were revered, respected and feared.  They were almost like kings, authority figures on thrones willing to receive an audience if need be.

 

But this father was different.  He was so broken by the loss of his youngest son that his grueling days were filled with despair.  On one hot afternoon he saw a figure approaching on the dusty road leading to his farm house…it couldn’t be.  He jumped up from the porch and strained his eyes to get a better look…it sure looks like him.  He called to his servants and they affirmed their master’s improbable hope…your son has come back home.  The father tore off his porch like lightning and did something that soon became the scandalous gossip of his community.  He actually lifted the bottom of his robe so he could run faster, bearing his bare legs before his shocked servants, and ran toward his scoundrel of a son.  Think of it!  This respected pillar of the community going off to greet the very wretch who broke his heart and wasted his hard-earned money.  And not only that, but He is welcoming the bankrupt loser like a king:

 

But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let's have a feast and celebrate. For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.[i]

 

This father was so lovesick for this lost son he didn’t care about his reputation.  He couldn’t even bring himself to scold his son for his sinful squandering.  The joy exploding from within him just wouldn’t allow it.

 

His oldest son didn’t appreciate all the merry-making over his decrepit brother, and even refused to come into the house from the field at the request of his dad.  He spurned a direct command from his own father!

 

The older brother became angry and refused to go in. So his father went out and pleaded with him.[ii]

 

Once again this father had to set aside his reputation, already in tatters, to go and seek out one of his sons, even thought surely it should be them coming to him. How disgraceful!  We get the reason again behind the father’s incomprehensible behavior a few verses later:

 

‘My son,’ the father said, ‘you are always with me, and everything I have is yours. But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.[iii]

 

 

Let the Father’s love embrace you today, washing away all your shame.  The cross is proof enough of how far He would be willing to set aside His dignity to get you back.  You might feel like turning away when he hugs you, or squirming when he puts the best robe on you, a ring on your finger and new sandals on your feet.  You know more than anyone how unworthy you are.  But just try anyway to rest in the assurance of His dauntless love as you feast together.



[i] Luke 15:22-24

[ii] Luke 15:28

[iii] Luke 15:31-32